Be an Independent Adult
Here 1st we need to know what independent signifies here? Here You can do anything is a mere definition of Independent but in actual terms it means you can do your things own your own , you don't have to rely on others for your work.
Now being an adult you also have to fulfill the following criteria:-
According to Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a research professor of Psychology at the Clark University in Massachusetts, specialises in emerging adulthood – that gap between late teens and mid-twenties, where people often feel a bit lost.
Part one - Thinking Independently
1. Taking responsibility for yourself
Speaking to Tech Insider, Jensen Arnett explains that this can mean a variety of things to different people, but the crux of the point is for people to take responsibility for their actions – no matter how difficult.
“It generally means accepting the consequences of your actions without expecting anyone else, particularly your parents, to protect you from those consequences.”
2. Making independent decisions
As well as taking responsibility for your actions, you need to be able to make independent decisions. Whether this is the decision to take a job or move house, being able to make these decisions independent of your parents or peers means you’re acting like an adult.
Jensen Arnett explains that this part is about finding out your identity: “The closer they get to 30, they're more likely to be able to answer these questions and figure out their place in life. It's not like these things are answered magically because they're older, but what they want to do, where they should live, finding a partner; because people are focused on these things, they find them.”
3. Financial independence
Perhaps one of the most obvious, yet difficult, of Jensen Arnett’s ‘adult criteria’ is being able to be financially independent.
Last one may be controversial but all these are the facts which an adult have to pass through .
Now let's come to the topic
There are three phases of being an independent adult :-
(A) .Think Independently
1.Accept yourself.
You cannot build a strong, independent you if you can't live with yourself. Accept your body, your personality, your opinions, your choices, your preferences, and your life story. Do not say things against yourself.
2.Believe in yourself.
If you don't believe in yourself then who else will? We are all different and have something unique to say. No one can speak the words on your lips and not everyone is going to agree with what you say which is why it's important for you to stand by who you are because at the end of the day you are all you got and if you believe in yourself that's really all that matters.
3Accept the world.
Independent people are not vain, nor do they believe the entire human race is cruel. Independent people are those who see the world, with its good and its bad, and consciously choose to be strong for themselves and others
4.Be emotionally independent.
Chances are, you depend on many people for emotional support. It may be your parents, a significant other, or good close friends. Some will move away, some will stop talking to you, and they all will eventually die. The only person that will always be with you is you.
5.Be self-motivated.
Other people do not have and will never have the same vested interest in your success. Motivation and success is a function of habit.
6.Be your own hero.
A role model can help inspire you and show you how to live your life. It's not a bad thing to find someone you deeply admire who shares your values. However, at the end of the day, it's important to think of yourself as your own role model, as a person who is capable of doing and saying anything he or she wants.
7.Accept that life is not fair.
Our parents cared for us so much that they did everything in their power to raise us in a fair and just environment. The real world does not function on that principle which is a big problem today.
8.Stop caring about what other people think.
Stop worrying about other people's judgements about your life, whether they are thinking about your clothes, your choice of career, or your choice of significant other.
9.Don't just think that you're the best; prove it to yourself
Your opinion matters the most in your own motivation, but you know when you're pulling your own weight as to your accomplishments.
10.Get your own information.
Watch and read the news and make sure you get it from a variety of sources.
Part two - Acting More Independent
1.Maintain solid friendships.
You don't have to throw away your friends to be independent. In fact, your independence is reinforced with good friends.
2.Become financially independent.
It is tempting to depend on others financially, but before you experience independence, you must be independent. Secure your finances
3.Don't settle for anything
For comfort, for ease, or to "be nice". Work hard at everything you do. Defend your opinions. And, for you girls, don't let a man feel he has to pamper you. If you're capable of doing something good, do it.
4.Leave your friends and family at home when you can.
This is a difficult step on the journey to independent living, but you must start doing things on your own.
5.Dump the bad influences in your life.
Don't break friendships unless absolutely necessary. Learn to keep a healthy distance.
6.Save money.
Save as much as reasonably possible. This will help you create an emergency fund, since life can be unpredictable at times.
7.Sign up for a bank account.
Most banks offer a checking and savings account together, in one convenient package.
8.Start on a career path.
Experiment with different careers and find the one that you enjoy most.
9.Find your passion.
Something you are devoted to, whether it is a sport, girlfriend/boyfriends, music, a band, a form of art/dance, religion. Something that you do constantly that takes up some time
10.lan your day around you.
People who are most dependent on others allow their worlds to revolve around the needs of other people or other things.
11.Thank people for helping you.
You don't have to be stubborn to be independent. If someone has really helped you out, then thank that person by giving him a sincere "thank you".
12.Avoid trends.
Just because somebody wants to pay $60 for a shirt doesn't mean you have to.
Part three - Navigating The World More Independently.
1.Learn to drive or navigate public transportation.
You'll never be fully independent if you don't learn to drive or how to get around on your own
2.Do your own research instead of asking other people for help all the time.
Make a habit of doing your own research before you call these people if you want to be more independent.
3.Learn to be handy around the house.
Learning how to fix up your own space will make you save lots of money and feel like you don't have to wait around for others to make your life better.
4.Cook for yourself.
Don't depend on Trader Joe's or the gourmet deli across the street to cook for you.
5. Learn to balance your budget.
Whatever is going on, you should understand how much money you have to spend every month or week
6.Don't depend on your GPS for directions.
Sure, turning on your GPS or the map on your smartphone can help you get from one place to another.
7.Get used to doing things alone.
If you're truly independent, then you won't need a buddy to accomplish every little task or to do any fun activity.
8.Take it slowly.
Rome wasn't built in a day, and no one is completely independent.
Somu Mahalaxmi
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Here 1st we need to know what independent signifies here? Here You can do anything is a mere definition of Independent but in actual terms it means you can do your things own your own , you don't have to rely on others for your work.
Now being an adult you also have to fulfill the following criteria:-
According to Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, a research professor of Psychology at the Clark University in Massachusetts, specialises in emerging adulthood – that gap between late teens and mid-twenties, where people often feel a bit lost.
Part one - Thinking Independently
1. Taking responsibility for yourself
Speaking to Tech Insider, Jensen Arnett explains that this can mean a variety of things to different people, but the crux of the point is for people to take responsibility for their actions – no matter how difficult.
“It generally means accepting the consequences of your actions without expecting anyone else, particularly your parents, to protect you from those consequences.”
2. Making independent decisions
As well as taking responsibility for your actions, you need to be able to make independent decisions. Whether this is the decision to take a job or move house, being able to make these decisions independent of your parents or peers means you’re acting like an adult.
Jensen Arnett explains that this part is about finding out your identity: “The closer they get to 30, they're more likely to be able to answer these questions and figure out their place in life. It's not like these things are answered magically because they're older, but what they want to do, where they should live, finding a partner; because people are focused on these things, they find them.”
3. Financial independence
Perhaps one of the most obvious, yet difficult, of Jensen Arnett’s ‘adult criteria’ is being able to be financially independent.
Last one may be controversial but all these are the facts which an adult have to pass through .
Now let's come to the topic
There are three phases of being an independent adult :-
(A) .Think Independently
1.Accept yourself.
You cannot build a strong, independent you if you can't live with yourself. Accept your body, your personality, your opinions, your choices, your preferences, and your life story. Do not say things against yourself.
2.Believe in yourself.
If you don't believe in yourself then who else will? We are all different and have something unique to say. No one can speak the words on your lips and not everyone is going to agree with what you say which is why it's important for you to stand by who you are because at the end of the day you are all you got and if you believe in yourself that's really all that matters.
3Accept the world.
Independent people are not vain, nor do they believe the entire human race is cruel. Independent people are those who see the world, with its good and its bad, and consciously choose to be strong for themselves and others
4.Be emotionally independent.
Chances are, you depend on many people for emotional support. It may be your parents, a significant other, or good close friends. Some will move away, some will stop talking to you, and they all will eventually die. The only person that will always be with you is you.
5.Be self-motivated.
Other people do not have and will never have the same vested interest in your success. Motivation and success is a function of habit.
6.Be your own hero.
A role model can help inspire you and show you how to live your life. It's not a bad thing to find someone you deeply admire who shares your values. However, at the end of the day, it's important to think of yourself as your own role model, as a person who is capable of doing and saying anything he or she wants.
7.Accept that life is not fair.
Our parents cared for us so much that they did everything in their power to raise us in a fair and just environment. The real world does not function on that principle which is a big problem today.
8.Stop caring about what other people think.
Stop worrying about other people's judgements about your life, whether they are thinking about your clothes, your choice of career, or your choice of significant other.
9.Don't just think that you're the best; prove it to yourself
Your opinion matters the most in your own motivation, but you know when you're pulling your own weight as to your accomplishments.
10.Get your own information.
Watch and read the news and make sure you get it from a variety of sources.
Part two - Acting More Independent
1.Maintain solid friendships.
You don't have to throw away your friends to be independent. In fact, your independence is reinforced with good friends.
2.Become financially independent.
It is tempting to depend on others financially, but before you experience independence, you must be independent. Secure your finances
3.Don't settle for anything
For comfort, for ease, or to "be nice". Work hard at everything you do. Defend your opinions. And, for you girls, don't let a man feel he has to pamper you. If you're capable of doing something good, do it.
4.Leave your friends and family at home when you can.
This is a difficult step on the journey to independent living, but you must start doing things on your own.
5.Dump the bad influences in your life.
Don't break friendships unless absolutely necessary. Learn to keep a healthy distance.
6.Save money.
Save as much as reasonably possible. This will help you create an emergency fund, since life can be unpredictable at times.
7.Sign up for a bank account.
Most banks offer a checking and savings account together, in one convenient package.
8.Start on a career path.
Experiment with different careers and find the one that you enjoy most.
9.Find your passion.
Something you are devoted to, whether it is a sport, girlfriend/boyfriends, music, a band, a form of art/dance, religion. Something that you do constantly that takes up some time
10.lan your day around you.
People who are most dependent on others allow their worlds to revolve around the needs of other people or other things.
11.Thank people for helping you.
You don't have to be stubborn to be independent. If someone has really helped you out, then thank that person by giving him a sincere "thank you".
12.Avoid trends.
Just because somebody wants to pay $60 for a shirt doesn't mean you have to.
Part three - Navigating The World More Independently.
1.Learn to drive or navigate public transportation.
You'll never be fully independent if you don't learn to drive or how to get around on your own
2.Do your own research instead of asking other people for help all the time.
Make a habit of doing your own research before you call these people if you want to be more independent.
3.Learn to be handy around the house.
Learning how to fix up your own space will make you save lots of money and feel like you don't have to wait around for others to make your life better.
4.Cook for yourself.
Don't depend on Trader Joe's or the gourmet deli across the street to cook for you.
5. Learn to balance your budget.
Whatever is going on, you should understand how much money you have to spend every month or week
6.Don't depend on your GPS for directions.
Sure, turning on your GPS or the map on your smartphone can help you get from one place to another.
7.Get used to doing things alone.
If you're truly independent, then you won't need a buddy to accomplish every little task or to do any fun activity.
8.Take it slowly.
Rome wasn't built in a day, and no one is completely independent.
Somu Mahalaxmi
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All Best Career Guide
by Capt Shekhar Gupta and Shina Kalra | 1 January 2019
एक स्वतंत्र वयस्क बनें
यहाँ 1 हमें यह जानने की जरूरत है कि यहां स्वतंत्र क्या दर्शाता है? यहाँ आप कुछ भी कर सकते हैं स्वतंत्र की एक मात्र परिभाषा है, लेकिन वास्तविक रूप में इसका मतलब है कि आप अपनी चीजों को खुद कर सकते हैं, आपको अपने काम के लिए दूसरों पर निर्भर होने की आवश्यकता नहीं है।
अब एक वयस्क होने के नाते आपको निम्नलिखित मानदंडों को भी पूरा करना होगा: -
मैसाचुसेट्स में क्लार्क विश्वविद्यालय में मनोविज्ञान के एक शोध प्रोफेसर जेफरी जेन्सेन अरनेट के अनुसार, उभरते वयस्कता में माहिर हैं - देर से किशोरावस्था और मध्य-बिसवां दशा के बीच का अंतर, जहां लोग अक्सर थोड़ा खो दिया महसूस करते हैं।
एक हिस्सा - स्वतंत्र रूप से सोच
1. खुद की जिम्मेदारी लेना
टेक इनसाइडर से बात करते हुए जेन्सन आर्नेट बताते हैं कि इसका मतलब अलग-अलग लोगों के लिए कई तरह की चीजें हो सकती हैं, लेकिन बिंदु का क्रूस लोगों के लिए अपने कार्यों की जिम्मेदारी लेना है - चाहे कितना भी मुश्किल क्यों न हो।
"इसका आम तौर पर मतलब है कि आप अपने कार्यों के परिणामों को स्वीकार करने के लिए किसी और की अपेक्षा के बिना, विशेष रूप से अपने माता-पिता को उन परिणामों से बचाने के लिए।"
2. स्वतंत्र निर्णय लेना
अपने कार्यों की जिम्मेदारी लेने के साथ-साथ आपको स्वतंत्र निर्णय लेने में सक्षम होने की आवश्यकता है। चाहे वह नौकरी लेने या घर छोड़ने का निर्णय हो, इन फैसलों को अपने माता-पिता या साथियों से स्वतंत्र करने में सक्षम होने का मतलब है कि आप एक वयस्क की तरह काम कर रहे हैं।
जेन्सेन अरनेट बताते हैं कि यह हिस्सा आपकी पहचान का पता लगाने के बारे में है: “वे 30 के करीब आते हैं, वे इन सवालों का जवाब देने और जीवन में अपनी जगह का पता लगाने में सक्षम होने की अधिक संभावना रखते हैं। ऐसा नहीं है कि ये बातें जादुई रूप से उत्तर दी गई हैं क्योंकि वे बड़े हैं, लेकिन वे क्या करना चाहते हैं, जहां उन्हें रहना चाहिए, एक साथी ढूंढना चाहिए; क्योंकि लोग इन चीजों पर केंद्रित हैं, वे उन्हें ढूंढते हैं। "
3. वित्तीय स्वतंत्रता
शायद जेनसेन आर्नेट के 'वयस्क मानदंडों' में से एक सबसे स्पष्ट, अभी तक मुश्किल है, आर्थिक रूप से स्वतंत्र होने में सक्षम है।
अंतिम एक विवादास्पद हो सकता है लेकिन ये सभी ऐसे तथ्य हैं जिनसे एक वयस्क को गुजरना पड़ता है।
अब आइये विषय पर आते हैं
एक स्वतंत्र वयस्क होने के तीन चरण हैं: -
(ए) स्वतंत्र रूप से
1. स्वयं को स्वीकार करें।
यदि आप अपने साथ नहीं रह सकते तो आप एक मजबूत, स्वतंत्र निर्माण नहीं कर सकते। अपने शरीर, अपने व्यक्तित्व, अपनी राय, अपनी पसंद, अपनी पसंद और अपनी जीवन कहानी को स्वीकार करें। अपने खिलाफ बातें न कहें।
2. अपने आप में विश्वास करो।
अगर आप खुद पर विश्वास नहीं करते हैं तो फिर और कौन करेगा? हम सभी अलग हैं और कहने के लिए कुछ अनोखा है। आपके होठों पर कोई भी शब्द नहीं बोल सकता है और हर कोई आपकी बातों से सहमत नहीं होने वाला है, जो यह कहता है कि आपके लिए यह महत्वपूर्ण है कि आप किसके साथ खड़े हों क्योंकि दिन के अंत में आप सभी मिल गए हैं और यदि आपको विश्वास है अपने आप में वह सब है जो मायने रखता है।
3 दुनिया को स्वीकार करें।
स्वतंत्र लोग व्यर्थ नहीं हैं, और न ही वे मानते हैं कि पूरी मानव जाति क्रूर है। स्वतंत्र लोग वे हैं जो दुनिया को देखते हैं, इसके अच्छे और बुरे के साथ, और सचेत रूप से अपने और दूसरों के लिए मजबूत होना चुनते हैं
4. भावनात्मक रूप से स्वतंत्र रहें।
संभावना है, आप भावनात्मक समर्थन के लिए कई लोगों पर निर्भर हैं। यह आपके माता-पिता, एक महत्वपूर्ण अन्य, या अच्छे करीबी दोस्त हो सकते हैं। कुछ दूर चले जाएंगे, कुछ आपसे बात करना बंद कर देंगे, और वे सभी अंततः मर जाएंगे। एकमात्र व्यक्ति जो हमेशा आपके साथ रहेगा वह आप हैं।
5. स्वयं से प्रेरित।
अन्य लोगों के पास आपकी सफलता में समान निहित स्वार्थ नहीं है और कभी नहीं होगा। प्रेरणा और सफलता आदत का कार्य है।
6. अपने खुद के नायक।
एक रोल मॉडल आपको प्रेरित करने और आपको यह दिखाने में मदद कर सकता है कि आपको अपना जीवन कैसे जीना है। किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति को ढूंढना बुरी बात नहीं है जिसे आप गहराई से मानते हैं जो आपके मूल्यों को साझा करता है। हालांकि, दिन के अंत में, अपने आप को अपने स्वयं के रोल मॉडल के रूप में सोचना महत्वपूर्ण है, एक ऐसे व्यक्ति के रूप में जो कुछ भी करने या करने के लिए सक्षम है।
7. स्वीकार करें कि जीवन उचित नहीं है।
हमारे माता-पिता ने हमारी इतनी देखभाल की कि उन्होंने निष्पक्ष और न्यायपूर्ण वातावरण में हमें ऊपर उठाने के लिए अपनी शक्ति में सब कुछ किया। वास्तविक दुनिया उस सिद्धांत पर काम नहीं करती है जो आज एक बड़ी समस्या है।
8. अन्य लोगों के बारे में क्या सोचते हैं, इसकी देखभाल करना।
अपने जीवन के बारे में अन्य लोगों के निर्णयों के बारे में चिंता करना बंद करें, चाहे वे आपके कपड़ों के बारे में सोच रहे हों, आपके करियर की पसंद, या आपकी पसंद का महत्वपूर्ण अन्य।
9. मत सोचो कि तुम सबसे अच्छे हो; इसे अपने आप को साबित करें
आपकी अपनी प्रेरणा में आपकी राय सबसे ज्यादा मायने रखती है, लेकिन आप जानते हैं कि जब आप अपनी उपलब्धियों के अनुसार अपना वजन खुद खींच रहे होते हैं।
10. अपनी खुद की जानकारी प्राप्त करें।
समाचार देखें और पढ़ें और सुनिश्चित करें कि आप इसे विभिन्न स्रोतों से प्राप्त करते हैं।
भाग दो - अभिनय अधिक स्वतंत्र
1. ठोस दोस्ती बनाए रखें।
आपको स्वतंत्र होने के लिए अपने दोस्तों को फेंकने की ज़रूरत नहीं है। वास्तव में, आपकी स्वतंत्रता अच्छे दोस्तों के साथ प्रबलित है।
2. आर्थिक रूप से स्वतंत्र स्वतंत्र।
यह आर्थिक रूप से दूसरों पर निर्भर होना ललचाता है, लेकिन इससे पहले कि आप स्वतंत्रता का अनुभव करें, आपको स्वतंत्र होना चाहिए। अपने वित्त को सुरक्षित करें
3. किसी भी चीज़ के लिए समझौता न करें
आराम के लिए, आराम के लिए, या "अच्छा होना"। आप जो कुछ भी करते हैं, उसमें पूरी मेहनत करें। अपनी राय का बचाव करें। ए
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